tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-132592172024-03-07T19:03:11.952-08:00BREATHE DEEPJudy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.comBlogger505125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-81973681107121017102012-10-30T00:22:00.000-07:002012-10-30T00:22:00.342-07:00Hello? Is anybody there?Well I am here, so I guess that is all that matters really. I struggled to recall my blog address it has been so long since I have written. One and a half years to be exact. I think I switched too much from worrying about the audience to writing for me. I could use a good cathartic outlet these days. I had to get out of bed because my brain was churning with thoughts like a 1970s Maytag washer and sleeping was out of the question.<br />
A life update. I am 48, and one month away from 49. My son with PDD-NOS, SPD, ADHD and acute adolescence is 13 and one month away from 14. My sweet tween girl is feeling awkward at 11, a few months from 12. My steadfast and dedicated husband is my age and holding on. My sweet-Alzheimer's owned Mom rings in at 87. We all be a bit crazy with our own stuff and each others stuff. We love our "babies": Java the Lab, 5, Tess the Doodle, 4, Izzy the golden retreiver therapy dog, 3. Oh, and the 18-year-old, fur-ball-covered, arthritic cat. <br />
Lately I am trying to slap-down the depression demons. They are rearing their ugly heads quite a bit. I am working on that, but need to do more. A couple moves toward doing better by me that I need to give myself credit for- I have hair appointment on W to eliminate those pesky dark roots and an eye exam tomorrow. On Halloween I will go out with a friend and kiddos then over to a friends house with kids to trick or treat <br />
That will be good for my soul. Soul work. I realize I need to base my day to day decisions on what is good for my soul, my core. A good thought. Glad I wrote. But still awake!Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-21812005637995841982011-05-21T12:37:00.000-07:002011-05-21T12:37:49.873-07:00CHECK...check check check 123 checkingHaven't blogged in forever. Writing seems like more of an option when I am away. Which NEVER happens. But, alas, I am away from home. I am even ALONE.<br />
I am in Portland OR for an amazing feeding course. 4 day course. I flew Th am and drove to course, course TH F S S and fly home Sun night.<br />
I have become pretty saavy at using my GPS on my iphone to find things. Urban spoon a great app to locate restaurants. I found a wonderful Berkeley-esque cafe just a few blocks from the hospital. Cafe sports mismatched furniture, Buddhist prayer flags and soulful music. I am in heaven. This part of Portland with well-loved Victorian homes, quirky businesses and bright minds.<br />
Today's lunch: the Planet sandwich-avocado, hummus, tomato, grated carrot, cucumber on seeded whole grain. I'll be having a cappacinno (sp) chaser. No worries, I haven't gone over the edge healthy. This is balance out last nights fish and chips grease fest.<br />
Last nights entertainment was mall shopping and seeing the movie Bridesmaides. SO funny, a must see. Tonight might be Water for Elephants.<br />
I've shelved all my real life obligations and they will greet me with a slap in the face Monday morning.<br />
A nice break I am having.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-51215348822082335782010-10-24T18:48:00.000-07:002010-10-24T18:48:36.785-07:00Puberty Note from the school speech therapist<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial; font-size: 18px;">On another note, I wanted to let you know what AJ asked me today. I had told him I went to the Giants game last night and we talked a little about it. At the end of the speech session, AJ said, can we pretend we are at the game and I am Steve (therapists husband)? Then, something good happens and you hug me? I said, “What?, where did that come from?” He said, “I don’t know it just popped into my head” I kind of laughed it off and he turned a little red and I sent him to class as I normally do. I think it is obviously “puberty” has arrived....</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial; font-size: 18px;"> </span>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-24981697948209445132010-09-26T21:35:00.000-07:002010-09-26T21:35:41.634-07:00Letter to the school -both sent on the same day<span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">I have just finished signing and putting in Ajs backpack that we received his progress report.</span><br />
<div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">I did not share it with him. </div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">My dear boy, my husband and I work hours everyday and on the weekend on homework. </div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">He shouldn't have mostly D's and F's as final grades. </div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">I brought this up at the iep and ended up with this horrid progress report and no contact or call from anyone on his team.</div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">I believe he can be successful with modification of some of the work and a lot of communication from the teachers and aide. </div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">We are devoted to him and making this work, but we need some help from his team at school. </div><div style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.5px;">Please let me know your ideas and I will do the same. </div><div><br />
</div><div>life is fatiguing me lately...</div>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-16910180440027551052010-09-26T21:22:00.000-07:002010-09-26T21:22:06.827-07:00Letter to the soccer team parents<div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;">Dear Parents of the Red Ragers,</span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Last week my husband attended the team parent meeting. He was confronted in front of the group by a couple of parents about our son, AJ. My husband was not at the game he was asked about. I was there and was organizing the team snacks when Aj evidently hit or pushed a child on the other team after being taunted. I was never aware nor told that this had occurred. Our message to Aj was, and continues to be, that this type of behavior is never acceptable. </span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>At the beginning of the season I told the coach (as I do every coach, camp counselor etc.) that Aj has learning and attention deficits and sometimes has difficulty controlling his emotions when in competitive situations. I asked him to let us know if he needed assistance, had questions etc. My husband has since had the same discussion with him. If a parent had asked me about Aj, or sat and chatted with me- I would have likely had a similar conversation. We are not hiding anything, and yet we don’t need to put him on public display for every parent on every team to examine and judge. At the end of every season or school year I always write notes thanking the coaches/teachers who have embraced and supported Aj. It does take a village to raise a child and I am so grateful to those who commit to ALL children in our community. </span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>Aj is a joy in our lives. That having been said, parenting a child like Aj can be a rocky and emotional road. I imagine he travels a similar road. My message to you as parents sharing this community is that families like ours desire and hope for acceptance, support and friendship. Those of you have offered this to mine and other families-I am so grateful. Those of you who gave a cold shoulder, commented that you are “tired of putting up with” my child and sought to shame us in a group forum are not “fixing” any one in my family. In the future I recommend calling upon your grace, integrity and compassion when addressing other families. </span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 14.0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px;"></span></div><div style="font: 12.0px Helvetica; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px;"><br />
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3 kids. The five kids are ages: 11, 11, 9, 8 and 5. Funny thing is you'd be hard pressed to identify which are mine. They all look like siblings and I look like a woman confused about how birth control works.<br />
The K. kids are delightful children. Really, having 5 kids is not so bad at all! The nutty part is due to shear volume of keeping track of who has bathed etc. The K. family make it easy. For example:<br />
I ask all 5 to sit and do some reading. AND THEY DO! My kids compliance goes up when they are here. Also, these kids are grateful beings. They may ask for an extra cookie etc-because they are kids-but they do not expect it. They do not demand it and they do not whine. Now I know their parents will say this is not always the case. It isn't with any kid. They get up in the morning and they get dressed with out being asked, and asked and asked.<br />
I LOVE THESE KIDS. I will miss them dearly. My son will miss his only friend. My daughter will miss a good friend and Pops and I will miss dear grown-up friends.<br />
Hats off to Mom and Dad K. They have excelled at being good parents and raising thoughtful, curious, grateful and loving children.<br />
I am off work this week and it is supposed to be a week of play. Monday we went mini-golfing, yesterday was the movies- Cats vs Dogs the Revenge of Kitty Galore. More tomorrow.<span id="goog_192301122"></span>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-15183685130707679142010-05-09T23:08:00.000-07:002010-05-09T23:08:46.578-07:00Check it outhttp://jphoto.smugmug.com/photos/841113891_iDLVb-M.jpg<br />
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One of my favorite photos taken by Julie Nelson. She is an OT, Mom and fabulous photographer.<br />
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check out her work at:Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-68074375860470276522010-05-09T11:24:00.000-07:002010-05-09T17:05:28.527-07:00Happy Mother's Day<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPEdg3YobLKqoQ8XqmUhhwvjTZaHMmCmvOfgg7mbuJrq42ukmIoy91xZv57HoiGnD318KGUM5EVBNEsCmOL8inJck2C6D6ZeMBzVM_i7t8Esm4WEZPgX1BztGiyo4ltGY0AZrBfQ/s1600/100_0418.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPEdg3YobLKqoQ8XqmUhhwvjTZaHMmCmvOfgg7mbuJrq42ukmIoy91xZv57HoiGnD318KGUM5EVBNEsCmOL8inJck2C6D6ZeMBzVM_i7t8Esm4WEZPgX1BztGiyo4ltGY0AZrBfQ/s320/100_0418.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>I have had wonderful morning the Mother's Day!<br />
Pops and Al went shopping early this am while Ki stayed and cuddled on and off with me while I snoozed.<br />
I was later awakened by my kiddos with a plate filled with a homemade breakfast mcmuffin (english muffin, egg, ham and cheese), cinnamon roll and strawberry. I got my coffee and read my paper in bed. My brown dogs joined me on and off and cleaned any food items that strayed from the plate.<br />
Aj got 2 bouquets of flowers at eh store-one for me and one for Granny. He awoke her by bounding into her bed with a top volume, off-key song about Mother's Day. The fact that she is still with us after awakening clarifies the fortitude of her physical make up.<br />
Ki presented me with a mug that she colored herself that contains sprouting cosmo seeds. Her decorated card reads:<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b>terrific, hugger, pretty, smart, amazing, love.</b></span><br />
She is so open about her feelings, "I love you so, so, so very much Mama." She is my sweet pea.<br />
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Aj gave me a letter he wrote at school. It reads:<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>Alex K 5/17/10</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>Here are some reasons why I love my Mom</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>1. She cheers on me when I get a hit, a basket, or a goal. Shes the loudest cheerer in the fans. She is very loud.</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>2. She helps me on my homework. Even though if it was 9:30 at night, my mom can still help me with my homework. She wants to get my homework done.</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>3. She gives me lots of hugs and kisses. When I've done something, a really hard thing, she gets so happy she cries. It is so cute.</b></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>I love you every minute of my life.</b></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>Love,</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>Alex Koeppen</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>xoxoxoox</b></span>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-30162335421689109562010-04-19T16:29:00.000-07:002010-04-19T16:29:01.363-07:00Spring break and beyondA week before Spring break I found out that my Dad was on oxygen full time, living alone and could no longer drive (you know-like to the store for groceries) and was moving to Seattle and selling the house I grew up in. His wife's family is so wonderful and are helping Dad and his wife every step of the way. BUt I wanted and needed to help, too. Ki and I flew down the Fri before Easter, rented a car and drove to Dad's house in Rancho Bernardo. Rental car was a KIA that was shaped like an egg and light blue. I yelled to Ki "Pedal harder!" as we entered the freeway. This gutless wonder was however timely from a seasonal sense as it resembled an Easter egg. We ended up staying in a hotel-which was fun. I helped Dad and Ki got to spend some time with him. I also got to meet Dad's wife's grand daughter who is just the coolest gal. Kids loved her too.<br />
AJ and Pops drove down to SAn Diego and met us. After being with my Dad-we headed off for visits to Sea World (still my favorite) and Lego Land.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-8835486944423990112010-04-04T09:13:00.001-07:002010-04-04T09:13:45.905-07:00Last Spring BreakLast Sptring break we had a stay-ca-tion in San Francisco. We stayed 3 nights.<br />
We took kids to the Zeum. They recorded their first music video.<br />
Props, music and words provided by Zeum. My kids had never heard this song before-so AJ is reading lyrics. This is funniest at the end. Enjoy<br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UU9iyqSjeI">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UU9iyqSjeI</a>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-85099273343097251572010-04-03T22:28:00.000-07:002010-04-03T22:28:44.541-07:00BooksA friend told me about a good book called<br />
<b>Little Bee</b> by Chris Cleave.<br />
I just bought we will see.<br />
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Ki is reading:<br />
<b>Bone #6: Old Man's Cave </b> (a comic book of sorts)<br />
<b>How to Train Your Dragon </b>which was recently made into a movie (movie looks good)Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-22693836124656009612010-04-03T22:24:00.000-07:002010-04-03T22:24:51.368-07:00Twas the Night Before EasterKi and I are here in a hotel in Rancho Bernardo (San Diego).<br />
Ki asked Pops to leave a note for the Easter Bunny explaining that she was not in Redwood City-but rather in Rancho Bernardo.<br />
We are both wondering if and how the Easter Bunny will leave a basket and/or eggs in a small hotel room...But I have faith he is a creative fellow.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-81670487004387594322010-03-31T14:28:00.000-07:002010-03-31T14:28:32.051-07:00Easter EggsI just paid for plastic Easter eggs that are already filled with candy. The best indulgent buy ever.<br />
I guess it is also good for my figure-as I can't eat and stuff eggs or be "stuck with leftovers".Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-90453741353736315042010-03-14T18:17:00.000-07:002010-03-14T18:18:38.856-07:00Whispering Mommy behind the stageSunday rehearsal 9 to 12 am<br />
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Both kids stayed home sick. I have little voice. A problem for a stage manager and speech therapist.<br />
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I've learned how to put tape on the stage so we know where to put the bases of the sets. Our young tribe of Merry Men are still trying to figure out which way to exit the stage. Wholly, they are a very inattentive lot. The back stage crew of 7th and 8th graders are all armed with high-end phones and spend time playing on them. I let them today as the pace was painfully slow at times-I told them tomorrow no more phones. They might get distracted- and I don't want to look bad next to an 8th grader.<br />
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I came home pooped and seemingly still sick a bit myself. Now at 6 pm Aj has a temp of 101 (day 4) and Ki a temp of 102 and she just vomited. Pops and Granny not feeling so great either.<br />
This is going to be a tough week. Play rehearsal/shows are M to Sat 530 pm to 930 pm and Sat afternoon.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-47810169173929774762010-03-13T23:35:00.000-08:002010-03-13T23:35:31.404-08:00Mommy behind the stageAh, it is time for the school play again. Last year it was the play Aladdin and my adventures were in the green room. Aj played the "neighbor" and Ki was a merchant selling nuts. One of her lines being "Someone stole my nuts!". Do note the irony in that line.<br />
This year the play is a comedy version of Robin Hood. Aj is Little John and Ki is one of the merry men. Aj is one of the main 8 characters and has quite a few lines! I am so proud because he was chosen over other "typical" boys. Ki is of course thrilled to be playing a guy.<br />
Aj has one scene in which he is supposed to pick his nose. It is helpful to know that in the past the picking of nose has been so chronic it was discussed in IEP's (note plural s). This boy has been rehearsing for this part for YEARS. So imagine my startle when Aj told me he was nervous about everyone seeing him pick his nose on stage-even if he was faking it. <br />
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This year I am behind the stage as one of the stage managers. My adventures will be noted from that venue. Well, so I was also put on the costume committee. Those who know me well just burst into hysterical laughter upon reading that assignment. That would be because my idea of dealing with a shirt missing a button or pants that need hemming is to not wear either of them. Clearly, I was not a lot of help there.<br />
Today (Saturday) was the casts first day at the theater (10 to 5). I am getting over a flu bug and have a very marginal voice. Aj has had headache, sore throat and fever for the last 3 days-so he stayed home.<br />
The sets are tremendous, just amazing. The music will be, too.<br />
The cast is HUGE. Over 40 I think. Lots to keep track of.<br />
Robin Hood and Maid Marian were told they will not have to kiss in the show. A relief to all children as the thought of touching someone of the opposite sex is horrifying. But I think when Maid Marian is an adult she will regret not being able to say she kissed Robin Hood.<br />
Today we practiced with sets and music/light cues. I came home with a throat ache and head ache and crashed. Back on Sunday am 9 to 12.<br />
Sandy is coming to see the play-kids are thrilled. Grandpa, Uncle Jim and Aunt Mary will come Sat for the matinee. Pops, Granny and I will watch final performance on Sat night.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-86352317123875749432010-03-11T13:06:00.000-08:002010-03-11T22:36:30.898-08:00Aj OnlineI had Aj stay home from school today as he was complaining of the same symptoms I have had. Headache and sore throat.<br />
<div>I had about 2 hours of clients so I left him here with Granny. He wanted my Apple (computer) and I said fine and left it with him.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Later at home again I sat down to check my email. </div><div>A million windows were open-the Disneyy Channel, Wikipedia and Askk.com.</div><div><br />
</div><div>One of the ASK search boxes read: <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; white-space: pre;"><b><i>can i see a belly button from women</i></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">Followed by: <b><i>can i see a belly button from pregnant women</i></b></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">Next read: <b><i>can I listen to beat it</i></b></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">Followed by: <b><i>can I listen to beat it with music</i></b></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;"><b><i><br />
</i></b></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">My notes and observations:</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">My boy can independently search on the internet!</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">He can even refine his search!</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;"><br />
</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">He is not a boob guy, leg guy or breast guy. Aj has always been a belly button guy. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">He still darts up to mannequins and lifts their shirts to examine the authenticity of their belly</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">buttons. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">Aj's teacher had her last day of work last week and is due to have her first baby next week. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">This has been exciting and intriguing for Alex. Especially since he loves babies. Yesterday </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">Aj, Granny and I went to a second appointment with Granny's full-term pregnant MD. On the </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">first visit he whispered to me, "Does the doctor have a baby in her tummy?". This visit I saw </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">him starring at her belly in a mesmerized fashion. She was sporting a VERY outy-pregnant-</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">lady belly button. When she stepped out I asked Aj if he saw her belly button.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">"Yah!". I explained that belly buttons get very stretched by pregnant bellies and either stick out or sometimes kinda disappear like mine did when I was pregnant. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">With disbelief and concern he blurted, "Yours is gone!". I verbally assured him it was no </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">longer gone and <i>visually</i> assured him by flashing my belly. The MD returned to give her </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">parting recommendations. Aj telescoped his eyes on her belly button. Ever so slowly, </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">he kneeled-his eyes now level with protruding jewel. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;">It happened quickly, the MD never noticed. But clearly - Aj had noticed the jewel and it is still on his mind.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="white-space: pre;"><br />
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</span></span></div>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-51360003106381987922010-02-28T13:46:00.000-08:002010-03-01T20:41:53.089-08:00Letter to a fellow mommy<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><i>I wrote this letter to a woman who is a friend-but not a close friend. Last fall her son completely unexpectedly died in the middle of the night. It was tragic. It hit home even more so in that our sons were the same age and carried the same diagnosis. I went to the funeral along with hundreds of others. I sobbed. But I held off on contacting her until now. Today it seemed right. I remember when my 20-something year old friend lost her Mom. I learned from her that the pain goes on long after the funeral and all of the follow-up calls and meals have occurred. As I was feeling over-whelmed by all the to-dos, forgot-to-dos, wish-I-hads this was very cathartic. People, family, friends, love. That is what matters. I refer to her son as "Elvis" in copy of the letter. Thanks Elvis-you helped me today.</i></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;"><i>Hi-</i></span><br />
<div><i>You pop onto my mind fairly frequently and I thought I'd write. I can only imagine that decades and yet only seconds have gone by since you lost your guy.</i></div><div><i>And I know all the very many people who love your family were probably most present initially. So here I am now.</i></div><div><i>Every so often I see a boy that looks like Elvis and it catches my breath. Then I think how that must happen to you constantly.</i></div><div><i><br />
</i></div><div><i>He was a model for me when I have talked to Aj that he has autism/PDD (what the fuckk ever). Initially I couldn't use the word "autism" because to him that was how I had talked about my friend's kids who had difficulties and that was why-for example our little buddies who are non-verbal or with limited language.</i></div><div><i>He was then put off that something that described them could describe him. So I told him, "Well-you know who else has autism? Elvis does". </i></div><div><i>So thanks to Elvis for being such a lovely model. Aj then referred to him as, "My friend Elvis who has a-little-bit-of-autism." </i></div><div><i><br />
</i></div><div><i>We lost our dear 13 year old lab last June. Aj asked me once if I thought Elvis was playing with Sierra in heaven. I told I thought yes he was.That I think Elvis really liked dogs and now Sierra has someone to play fetch with.</i></div><div><i><br />
</i></div><div><i>So I cried when I wrote this. And I delayed writing it because I thought it would make you cry, too. But I decided you probably already cry. </i></div><div><i>And I wanted you to know that there is still a lot of love out there for you and Elvis and your family.</i></div><div><br />
</div><div>be well</div>Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-26959154475895836922010-02-08T20:30:00.000-08:002010-02-08T20:30:21.802-08:00Nice research findingsI found a research study summary in my professional journal that brought a smile to my face (see link below). Basically a longitudinal study of kids from age 5 to 25. Participants included kids with language delays/disorders, kids with speech (articulation disorders) and typical kids. The majority of the kids with language difficulties persisted with lower language, cognitive and occupational skills then typical peers at age 25. I am not surprised by that. What made me happy is the news that the individuals rated their quality of life to be just as good as the typical group. There was of course a strong correlation with family support.<br />
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Long ago I decided that my goal for Aj was for him to be happy. Not Harvard, Stanford or maybe even any college graduate-but happiness. My hope is that he will grow up to be a happy individual who can contribute to society. I am confident this will be the case.<br />
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http://ajslp.asha.org/cgi/content/abstract/19/1/51?etocJudy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-60977705613818118162010-02-04T09:20:00.000-08:002010-02-04T09:20:14.347-08:00The "Which reminds me" CycleGranny needs her hair done<br />
She needs that sore on her leg looked at<br />
She needs to go to the bank<br />
I need to go to attorney for medical power of attorney and all that stuff<br />
<br />
Which reminds of aj<br />
the incomplete iep<br />
the difficult behaviors<br />
the lack of friends<br />
the therapy he should be having<br />
the dentist he should have seen<br />
the unschedule eye exam<br />
<br />
Which reminds me of Ki<br />
my sweet girl who daily wanders alone on the playground<br />
who is uncomfortable in her beautiful skin<br />
who is sensitive and searching<br />
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Which reminds me of my business<br />
the ways i am not contributing to its success<br />
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Which reminds me of my husband<br />
my sweet partner<br />
who is truly a partner<br />
he contributes to caring for kids, cooking, cleaning, playing ball, driving to appointments...<br />
I went out with him once last year<br />
I kept my end of the bargain sometime then too<br />
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Which may remind me of me<br />
the friendships that I have left unwatered<br />
the mess i live in<br />
the unscheduled doctor, dentist, eye appointments<br />
<br />
This ugly cycle<br />
Every so often it grabs me<br />
pulls my breath and sucks at my soul<br />
<br />
Then I stabilize<br />
not totally- because all of that is always there<br />
But it isn't always so big<br />
And I can breathe<br />
And my soul sort of settles<br />
Soon it won't all feel so big<br />
That is how it goesJudy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-87931133215673131952010-02-03T22:45:00.000-08:002010-02-03T22:48:14.809-08:00The VisitorToday we talked, Granny and I.<br />
I told her he was coming to visit.<br />
He'd be here for dinner.<br />
What time she asked.<br />
Then she asked again.<br />
She said she didn't know he was coming.<br />
I snapped at her. I told her- I told you, I'm sorry you don't remember.<br />
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I snap at her often, daily, many times daily.<br />
I feel angry at me, fatigued, guilty.<br />
<br />
He comes, we have dinner.<br />
We talk, he shares stories from the past.<br />
Toward evenings end Granny nods and agrees when conversation warrants. <br />
I sense her comments driven by obligation, not understanding.<br />
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We plan for lunch tomorrow.<br />
The three of us.<br />
He'll pick you up, we'll meet at my office.<br />
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Goodnight we say. So nice to see you.<br />
Close the door, prepare for bed.<br />
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Judy, you say.<br />
Judy, who was that young man that was here?<br />
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Mom, it was Richard.<br />
Don't you remember?<br />
He is your son.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-8922143137348299512010-02-03T22:24:00.000-08:002010-02-03T22:24:49.987-08:00The ClimbIt's big,<br />
like Half Dome.<br />
<br />
Standing at the base<br />
I see only granite,<br />
no sky.<br />
Feel still air,<br />
no breeze.<br />
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Climb, climb.<br />
Shed the shade,<br />
seek the sun.<br />
I carry no ropes,<br />
see no hand holds.<br />
<br />
Show me the path.<br />
The one round the back.<br />
Ascend the cables.<br />
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Breathe deep the summit air-<br />
chilling, yet relieving.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-70346072759209768462009-12-22T13:29:00.000-08:002009-12-22T13:38:23.965-08:00Dear SantaDear Santa,<br />How are you doing? Are you ready to go on your big trip in 3 days? (or less) Anyway here is my list of presents. 1. legos any size you want 2. Comics. Calvin and Hobbes, Peanuts, and Bone (not 1-3.) 3. Movies. Scooby-Doo, Tom and Jerry, and AFV 4. Toys! 5. Action <strong>figires</strong>! I've been as nice as I could! A good kid,<br /> Ki (Super K)<br /><br />written by Ki today in neon green gel pen on school lined paper<br />word(s) in bold are underlined by her as directed by her teacher to do when you are unsure of the spelling and try to sound it out and use "kid spelling"Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-64483269786427888202009-12-19T23:32:00.000-08:002009-12-19T23:43:18.324-08:00ChristmasI am pretty much done with shopping for Xmas. That is good for me as today is the 19th. I often still have lots to do. Today we finally decorated the tree and inside of the house. I am so pleased to find I have a holiday decorating ally in Ki. She demanded we all be in the living room at the same time to decorate the tree as this was ''The family tradition". So it looks like in the future I will have a partner in the annual decorating event.<br /><br />Today I made:<br />Christmas Bark (white chocolate, dried cranberries and pistachios)<br />Chocolate peanut bark (ingredients same as the name)<br />Pine Bark -Now this is a new one. I found the recipe on Internet. Not sure why it is called Pine Bark as no pine trees were harmed in the making of this bark, it does not smell of pine nor does it look like pine. But it taste great.<br />Tomorrow I'll make up a ton of Chex mix. The regular ol' recipe in all of its salty, buttery goodness. Lot's of food gifts this year.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-72663050499955247392009-12-19T23:25:00.000-08:002009-12-19T23:31:56.260-08:00Aj 11th bday giftAj had his 11th bday and he kept asking for a Sharks (local professional hockey team) jersey and tickets to a game. He and I went to a game last week. We had good seats. We took CAL train from Redwood City. Pops met the train in Palo Alto and Ki popped off there so they could go out to dinner and then go home for an evening of Wii playing, just the two of them.<br />Aj and I ate our way around HP Pavilion (named after Hewlet Packard). Aj ate a cheeseburger, fries, soda, churro and popcorn. We cheered and danced and clapped at all the appropriate times, and then some more. Sharks played the Dallas Stars. The game ended in a 2-2 tie, then want into over-time and then into a shoot out. Very exciting for AJ's first game. Then home on the train. A GOOD birthday gift!Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13259217.post-88934505771937024042009-12-19T23:20:00.000-08:002009-12-19T23:25:21.681-08:00Birthday PresentPops had my blog printed into a book as my gift. It is big. About 9 X 11 and 1 1/2 inches thick. I started blogging 3 or 4 years ago after I was <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">introduced</span> to it by squid. I don't know if I wanted everything in it so available to read. But it will be nice for my family in the future. I am curious if I will curb my content when considering if I/he will print in the future. But all in all a very thoughtful gift.Judy McCrary Koeppen MS SLP Sage Therapyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07676186836546670650noreply@blogger.com1